"Don't let anyone select your marriage partner for you, and dont allow yourself to select a lifetime mate in order to satisfy someone else.This is your marriage, your once-in-a lifetime opportunity"
-from the Book Finding The Love Of Your Life
(note: the word "anyone" here talks about humans, ok? The author of that book is a Christian and of course, in finding the love of our lives, he encouraged that we don't exclude God in that issue (and i agree to that and God should be the center of every issue in our lives including marriage.)