Wedding Dreams And Reality

Saturday, November 26, 2011

This Is Very Sad

Proverbs 25:24 The Message (MSG)

Better to live alone in a tumbledown shack
than share a mansion with a nagging spouse.

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Monday, November 14, 2011

Learn and Speak Your Love Language

Being single or married

has nothing to do with whether you need to feel loved!

Everyone has a God-given yearning

for complete and unconditional love in the context of all relationships.

If you want to give and receive love most effectively,

you've got to learn to speak the right love language.

Different people with different personalities express love in different ways.

In fact, there are five very specific languages of love:

Words of Affirmation, Gifts, Acts of Service, Quality Time, Physical Touch.

-Gary Chapman

from his book,

The Five Love Languages

(Singles Edition)

read also my review of this book here.

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Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Something Much Better

For singles...

Sometimes,

God allows a romantic relationship

to end

to give you something much,

much better.

-Jason Illian

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Sunday, October 30, 2011

When You Marry Someone...

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When you marry someone...

You marry everything about him/ her.

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By the grace of God I am what I am.

Sunday, October 9, 2011

A Journey Of A Long Distance Relationship

courtesy of ArlethG Photography (used with permission)

Marriage is a journey...you can't just desire for it today and date on that day and marry the next day.

And for me, you can't put God in a box where to meet the person you'll marry. God has so many ways in doing it in answers to our prayers.

A journey of a long distance relationship...this is basically an interview and a photoblog about LJ and John's journey with their wedding that started as a long distance relationship.

LJ Salceda-Shroeder is a former 702 DZAS host of Inspirations Unlimited and Pinoy Espesyal but still the host of Love On Air and the author of Eating With One Chopstick.

This interview was supposed to be a video interview when she was still here but for some reason, i wasn't able to produce a video interview.

Anyway, their story is really a wedding dream that came to reality. I said this because they underwent a lot of paperwork (which is not easy to accomplish), interviews and different situations before they finally married. After reading this, you might want to read LJ's blogs (the link to her blog site is posted on the latter part of this article.)

Here's the interview:

WeddingDreamsAndReality :

How do u feel now that your single days are numbered?

LJ Salceda-Shroeder:

Mostly stressed out because of the paperwork and wedding preparations. It went by fast because I was always occupied with something, before I knew it, I was married! :)

courtesy of ArlethG Photography

courtesy of ArlethG photography

courtesy of LJ

courtesy of ArlethG photography

WeddingDreamsAndReality :

For those who don't know, how did u meet John?

LJ Salceda-Shroeder:

We met through a Christian dating site for free.

courtesy of LJ Salceda-Shroeder by Wingdingz

WeddingDreamsAndReality :

How long have u been on before u got engaged?

LJ Salceda-Shroeder:

About a year and 4 months.

courtesy of LJ's facebook photos

courtesy of LJ (Bohol, Philippines)

courtesy of LJ

WeddingDreamsAndReality :

What are the disadvantages and advantages of having a long distance relationship and how did u overcome those disadvantages?

LJ Salceda-Shroeder:

Advantages: Focus on work/ministry and avoiding temptations, more time for yourself.

more time for herself

focus on work (with her DZAS family)

focus on the ministry

Disadvantages: Not being able to see each other in person, expenses, not being able to spend important occasions together.

alone during christmas day

WeddingDreamsAndReality :

How did u know that John is the one you want to marry? Was there a "sign" that he is the one :) ?

courtesy of ArlethG photography

LJ Salceda-Shroeder:

I don't believe in signs nor asked for them. I prayed, I asked the Lord for guidance and confirmations and I had peace in my heart that's when I knew we were meant for each other.

WeddingDreamsAndReality :

What tips can you give to those who are on LDR (Long Distance Relationships) to make their relationships successful?

LJ Salceda-Shroeder:

Pray, invest in your relationship and save tons of money for visits, paperwork and wedding. :)

her visit to the U.S.

John's visit in the Philippines

WeddingDreamsAndReality :

Congrats to the both of you and may your marriage be successful and fruitful!


courtesy of ArlethG photography

courtesy of ArlethG photography

A journey of a long distance relationship...it wasn't easy for the both of them but in their patience, a lot of prayers, trust in God, encouragements from their family and friends, willingness to do the paperwork without going through shortcuts, the love for each other, the vision to reach their goals and the desire to glorify God...wow...it's really inspiring! LJ and John, may your marriage continue to glorify God.

God deserves all the glory!

Acknowledgement: thanks to Arleth for allowing me to use her photoshots here and giving her immediate permission when i sent her a message about it and to my friend Mrs.LJ Salceda-Shroeder for giving her time to answer all my questions and for allowing me to feature her and John here. Thanks also for her facebook account for the photos:)

You can visit LJ's blogs here.

I put "copyright" on my every post because this is my blog site, it's like my signature on my every post.

By the grace of God I am what I am.

Sunday, September 18, 2011

A Wife

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When i was riding in a taxi going to work the past few days, i started composing these words in my heart and when i got home the other day from work, i started to write these down on my notebook and here's my composition. Men, i hope you would treat your wife like this:

A wife is someone to love not to hate

She is a help-meet not your helper

She should be your supporter

not your competitor, nor your destroyer.

A wife should always be remembered, not forgotten.

Live with her not leave her

Take care of her and don't say "I don't care."

A wife doesn't need a shout and doesn't need to be in doubt

She needs your whisper, your sweet talk and a good talk as you walk

Give her your comfort not just your financial support.

A wife needs your listening ears

She always wants your words saying, "I'll be here, remove your fears."

A wife should be treasured

God gave her, so cherish her...

Love her as Christ loves her

She is yours and should not belong to any other man

Keep her as the apple of your eye, man!

A wife should be your one and only

No number two, no number three,

no number four nor number forty four

Make her your first and last, not your past

Till death do you part...this should be in your heart!

I put "copyright" on my every post because this is my blog site, it's like my signature on my every post.

Most of the thoughts i post here are my own writings...

these are the things I've learned as i spend time reading God's word during my devotional time and sometimes, words are just dropped in my heart.

And if in case you would like to post my own writings/poems/devotional thoughts/insights to your own blogs or use them in any way, please ask permission from me first or at least give credit that it came from me.

Thank you so much:))

Thursday, September 15, 2011

The One You Love Versus God

video courtesy of youtube.com

I celebrate with other Filipinos about Ms Shamcey Supsup's victory in the Miss Universe 2011 Pageant.

Since the question and answer was about relationship, i decided to post it here including the video. I've been planning to post it here on the day the Miss Universe 2011 was held but i had no time to do it. So,to those who watched the pageant, here's this post to refresh you and to those who were not able to watch it, here's a glimpse of it.

The question was : Would you change your religious beliefs to marry the person you love, why or why not?

She answered: "If i had to change my religious beliefs, i would not marry the person that i love because the first person that i love is God who created me and i have my faith, my principles and this is what makes me who i am and if that person loves me, he should love my God, too."

My view on it: Congratulations, Shamcey. You answered that well. I agree. The one we should love first is God and if that person doesn't love God and doesn't even honor God, a relationship with that person is not worth fighting for. If we would choose God, He could provide a better person...not just a better person but the best person for us, the one who loves Him and the one that would really love us the way God wants us to be loved.

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Sunday, September 4, 2011

Relationship (Part II)

Most of our thoughts

are centered on the money we want to make,

the school we want to attend,

the body we aspire to have,

the spouse we want to marry,

the kind of person we want to become.

But the fact is that

nothing should concern us more

than our relationship with God.

-Francis Chan

Crazy Love

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Sunday, August 28, 2011

Relationship

A relationship is an investment.

It's an investment of time...

of effort...

of money...

of almost everything in our lives.

Above all our relationships,

the best relationship that we must invest on

is our relationship with God...

for when we invest our time,

our money,

our effort,

and our everything to God,

there is no waste...

but there is a better return.

-Mari Ann Rose "Mariah" F. Gadapan

I put "copyright" on my every post because this is my blog site, it's like my signature on my every post.

Most of the thoughts i post here are my own writings...

these are the things I've learned as i spend time reading God's word during my devotional time.

Thank you so much:))

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

How Does The Bible Define A Man Who Commits Adultery?

There are many verses in the Bible to warn people not to commit adultery but i just want to share here two of my bible readings today which are found in Proverbs 6:32-33 and I want to share them here in different versions:

New International Version:

"But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself. Blows and disgrace are his lot, and his shame will never be wiped away."

Amplified Bible:

"But whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks heart and understanding (moral principle and prudence); he who does it is destroying his own life. Wounds and disgrace will he get, and his reproach will not be wiped away."

The Message Translations:

"Adultery is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive; Expect a bloody nose, a black eye, and a reputation ruined for good."

New Century Version:

"A man who takes part in adultery has no sense; he will destroy himself. He will be beaten up and disgraced, and his shame will never go away."

New Living Translation:

But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys himself. He will be wounded and disgraced. His shame will never be erased."

New King James Version:

"Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding; He who does so destroys his own soul. Wounds and dishonour he will get, And his reproach will not be wiped away."

Thoughts: These verses are very strong. If you consider yourself intelligent and wise but commits adultery, in the eyes of God, you're still a fool. Adultery is a brainless act. Think about it. I pray that God will make you more faithful to your spouse.

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By the grace of God I am what I am.

Thursday, July 14, 2011

Warning Against Adultery

Proverbs 6:20-37

New Century Version (NCV)

My son, keep your father's commands,
and don't forget your mother's teaching.

Keep their words in mind forever
as though you had them tied around your neck.

They will guide you when you walk.
They will guard you when you sleep.

They will speak to you when you are awake.

These commands are like a lamp;
       this teaching is like a light.
    And the correction that comes from them
       will help you have life.

They will keep you from sinful women
and from the pleasing words of another man's unfaithful wife.

Don't desire her because she is beautiful.
Don't let her capture you by the way she looks at you.

A prostitute will treat you like a loaf of bread,
and a woman who takes part in adultery may cost you your life.

You cannot carry hot coals against your chest
without burning your clothes,
and you cannot walk on hot coals
without burning your feet.

The same is true if you have sexual relations with another man's wife.
Anyone who does so will be punished.
People don't hate a thief
when he steals because he is hungry.

But if he is caught, he must pay back seven times what he stole,
and it may cost him everything he owns.

A man who takes part in adultery has no sense;
he will destroy himself.

He will be beaten up and disgraced,
and his shame will never go away.

Jealousy makes a husband very angry,
and he will have no pity when he gets revenge.

He will accept no payment for the wrong;
he will take no amount of money.

Sunday, July 3, 2011

The Kind Of Wife The Lord Gives (From Proverbs 19:14)

I don't know...but recently, i have a strong conviction to post here something that would help men.

When i read Proverbs 19:14, I was fascinated with different translations of the kind of wife God gives.

To all men out there, here's the kind of wife God gives (from Proverbs 19:14):

A WISE WIFE

Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a wise wife is a gift from the Lord. Proverbs 19:14 New Century Version (NCV)

A PRUDENT WIFE

Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD. Proverbs 19:14 New International Version (NIV)

A WISE, UNDERSTANDING AND PRUDENT WIFE

House and riches are the inheritance from fathers, but a wise, understanding, and prudent wife is from the Lord. Proverbs 19:14, Amplified Bible (AMP)

A SENSIBLE WIFE

You may inherit all you own from your parents, but a sensible wife is a gift from the LORD. Proverbs 19:14,Contemporary English Version (CEV)

A CONGENIAL SPOUSE

House and land are handed down from parents, but a congenial spouse comes straight from God. Proverbs 19:14 The Message (MSG)

God knows your heart, men. God knows the best for you. So come to Him and He will give you a prudent, wise, understanding, sensible and congenial wife. Proverbs 18:22 says, "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD." If you're still searching for the woman you're going to marry, seek God and He will give you the best.

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