Wedding Dreams And Reality

Friday, February 3, 2012

Friends Or Lovers?

Valentine's day is around the corner. Everyone is excited about it especially those who are in love. In line with that, I wanna share some thoughts from the book I've read a few months ago (I'll post a review of that book soon on my other blog site).

In the meantime, here are some interesting thoughts there which i totally agree of:

A woman may have a platonic friendship with a man-and that's all it is. Yes women see circumstances differently from men. Women see things a man does not see. Just because you are great friends with a guy does not mean he's planning to marry you. He may be really nice to you, he may say wonderful things about you, he may even tell you that you would be a wonderful wife-all without ever intending to marry you. Friendship with men can confuse women. However, you should still be a friend first. Your relationship should start out as friendship and progress to courtship and then to matrimony. But how can you avoid the situation where the friend you hoped to marry calls you one day and tells you about this wonderful woman he met? He just wanted to call you, his friend, to tell you about his happiness.

Learn to listen. Are you foreseeing and imagining a future with someone who hasn't discussed having a future with you? Listen to what the man says. In some cases, men lie and deceive you, but in most cases, women deceive themselves. Men tend to commit to their words. Just because a man is nice to you, friendly, caring, and helpful, don't assume he loves you in a way that will eventually lead to marriage. Protect your heart by really listening to what he says.

From the book

What Women Don't Know (and Men Dont Tell You)

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Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Walking Her Home

This is a great song...one of my favorite christian love songs. My favorite line on this song's lyrics is this, "He wandered through the best days of her life. 60 years together and he never left her side." I wish every man is like that.

video courtesy of youtube.com

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By the grace of God I am what I am.

Thursday, January 5, 2012

Wedding Vows That Can Touch Your Heart

I've been wanting to post this video mid 2011 but since I also wanted to post here the vows in words, i waited for an available time for me to transcribe them. Now that i already transcribed them (i hope i did a good job in transcribing them accurately), here's the video of the wedding vows I've been wanting to share on this blog site.

These vows are really touching and inspiring. I also posted my review of these wedding vows at the bottom of this post.

GROOM

When I say I love you,

I’m not just making you my wife,

I’m making you my best friend,

My last dance, my only hope, my forever lover.

When I say I love you,

I’m not just expressing a feeling,

I’m solidifying a commitment

And i know it'll take my whole life to show it to you

When I say I love you,

I’m not claiming to have all the answers,

I hope that when we are together

We can ask all the right questions.

When I say I love you,

I’m not just repeating “'til death do us part,"

I’m saying i'll be here for you forever

In this life and the life to come.

When I say I love you,

I’m not just voicing mere words

I’m telling you that I’ve been surprised, challenged, shocked, humbled—

realizing that soul mates really do exist.

When I say I love you,

I’m not just giving you human love

I'm attempting to pour out God’s unconditional, sacrificial love

Dying to self, in hopes that I can better honor and serve you.

Alicia, i don't know how to imagine it myself

an undeserved blessing, a gift from God

To most in the world, my life is closed

but to you I open my heart

I don’t know what the future holds,

but I know that I don’t have one without you.

Just know that when I say I love you, I love you.

BRIDE

When I say I love you,

I’m not just making you my husband,

I’m making you my stronghold,

The family leader, my heart’s protector, and my goodnight kiss

When I say I love you,

I’m not just standing before family and friends,

I’m kneeling before Christ our Savior

And praying that His grace will knit our lives together

When I say I love you,

I’m not just adding your last name,

I’m subtracting our loneliness, dividing our sorrows

And multiplying our joys so that two can become one

When I say I love you,

I’m not just asking you to make me whole,

I’m asking you to stay focused on God

And together with the strength and love

We will be made holy

When I say I love you,

I’m not expecting happily ever after,

I’m just preparing

But to the mountains and the valleys,

Swim through the joys and sorrows

Battle the good times and the bad

So together we can make a life.

When I say I love you,

I don’t want big houses or fancy cars

I just wanna live in your arms and touch your heart

So we can dream bigger dreams than we could do separately

Jason, you are the man of my dreams—

a real-life knight in shining armor.

And i never had such peace when i'm with you

I never felt closer to God than I’m with you.

I know i'm not perfect, but I believe that we fit perfectly together.

Just know that when I say I love you, I love you.

Just a review from me (the blogger): The vows are really touching and they are very inspiring especially from the statement of the groom that says:

When I say I love you,
I’m not just making you my wife,
I’m making you my best friend,
My last dance...my forever lover.

Every word would make you fall in love and would make you cry. It's like a fairy tale in a real world.

I just wanna review some of the statements like:

"I don’t know what the future holds,

but I know that I don’t have one without you."

We know that God holds the future even if someone is not with us, but i can understand that in a "lover's perspective". The groom and the bride in this video are godly so i believe they know that God holds their future.

I want to review this statement as well:

"I’m making you my stronghold,

The family leader, my heart’s protector..."

God is our stronghold, he should be the family leader and our heart's protector.

Ephesians 5:22 says, "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord." God is the head of the husband, the husband is the head of the wife, so God is the family leader. On the other hand, i also agree that the husband should be the leader of the family because God has given him authority to lead the family.

As the heart's protector, i believe in some point that a husband can protect the wife's heart but not all the time, so, God is still the ultimate protector of our hearts.

But, overall, these wedding vows are really inspiring and very touching.To all the married ones, may this video inspire you more to love your spouse and remember your vows and fulfill them. If you are single and soon to be married, may you find inspiration from these vows and may your heart be touched.

I would like to thank Jason Illian for giving me permission to post the video here. To Jason and Alicia Illian, may you continue to be blessed in your marriage life and continue to make Christ as the center of your relationship.

I put "copyright" on my every post because this is my blog site, it's like my signature on my every post.

By the grace of God I am what I am.