Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Is The Lord Directing You To That Person In Marriage...Then Go For It!



I'm not an expert on this topic because I'm not married yet and in fact, once in my life, i almost entered into a marriage plan that is not God's will for me (but i thank God that he saved me from it.)

I'm here to share what i've learned from my daily reading of God's word. As a student of the word of God, i've learned that if God is leading you to that person to be your future partner, then go for it, if not, then don't.

In Genesis 24:50-51, we can read there: "Laban and Bethuel answered, “This is from the LORD; we can say nothing to you one way or the other. Here is Rebekah; take her and go, and let her become the wife of your master’s son, as the LORD has directed ."

God will direct us even to the right person we're going to marry. If we would constantly pray and read His word, we would know in our hearts if God is directing us to that person in marriage or not.

God may be speaking to us in different ways but we should always include God in choosing the right mate for us. I know some people whom God has spoken to their hearts  when they met their future mates...words like "That will be your wife."..or "that will be your husband" (even if they haven't fallen in love with each other yet or haven't known each other that well yet.) I'm very fascinated with that kind of love story but that is not always the case. Sometimes, it's love at first sight like what happened to Adam and Eve and sometimes God would direct you to the qualities that you really admire or see in that person..the qualities you've been praying for to have in your future partner. 

We can not put God in a box. I have friends who met their partners in life through online dating (but caution is also needed in this kind of dating or searching for your future partner.) Other marriage began in friendship. Whatever that situation is, if God is leading you to that person to be your future partner...go for it! Don't say one way or the other. Just go for it! A constant prayer and reading of God's word will help you in the direction God wants you for that relationship. In my first relationship, it took me almost four years to really follow God's direction that that man is not his will for my life (if i followed Him at first, it would have not caused me so much pain in my heart.) When the relationship was finally ended, God gave me a promise that He has a better plan for my life.

What God is telling you in your present relationship? Is He directing you to that person in marriage?...then go for it, but if not, be humble before God, ask for his direction everyday in your prayer time and read His word and allow Him to direct you. He knows the best for you and me.

P.S

This was the poem i originally composed for that relationship of mine  which i also posted on my other blog site:

An Utmost Prayer of Love

I feel something for you
with what i feel for you
I just commit it to the Lord
And to Him,I've committed you
My utmost prayer for you:
"May you be in-love with Him deeply
and give your heart to Him completely"

I love you...i know i do
But this love is up to God and what He will do
If its His will for me and you to become one
He will make your heart and mine one

And if this is God's will, His will will prevail....
That one day, i will be yours and you will be mine
and our love for each other will never fail
and i trust God will make a way
May we know Him more as we ask His guidance so divine
And really know His Will as we faithfully abide in the VINE

And if we are really for each other
He will cause us to be together
From this day forward i believe God will prepare a way for us to be together
And to enjoy the beautiful future He has planned for us to be together
May God's angels be commissioned- as what they are called to do
To protect us on our way...to exchanging our "I do"

And as we look forward to that time
May my name be engraved in your heart and yours in mine
May each of us know that we are really the ones God has meant to be..
......through prayers
......through circumstances
......through the people around us
......and through the powerful word and the Spirit of the Living God.
And we will boldly say to each other before we exchange "I do"
These powerful and comforting words "I love you, yes I do"

But if there would be better than you to become my partner
I would just look back to this time and feeling and say,
"Thank God , i've met you and uttered my prayer for you..
To be more in love with Him and be faithful in His word and in prayer"
And if there would be someone better than i to become your partner,
I would just look back to this time and feeling and say:
"Thank God, He gave me an opportunity to love you
and prayed the best for you."




Friday, January 7, 2011

Wise Words For You In Selecting Your Marriage Partner (Part II)



Here Are Other Quotes and Verses That Could Help Us In Selecting Our Mate:

"You are not looking for someone who might be voted "Mate of the Year" by the general public or by your friends.You need to choose someone with personality you can live with and enjoy." -from the Book "Finding The Love Of Your Life "

"But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”"- 1 Samuel 16:7 

-Although this passage was about the words of the Lord to Samuel when he was to anoint a new king for Israel, we can also consider this verse in choosing a mate for us.Sometimes, we tend to look at the physical appearance of a person only and not really focus on the heart. Yes, physical appearance matters but in choosing a mate, you just don't consider the physical appearance per se...it should be the "whole package"---spiritually, mentally, emotionally, socially..every aspect.

"Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God."-Proverbs 31:30 The Message Translation

"Charm and grace are deceptive, and beauty is vain [because it is not lasting], but a woman who reverently and worshipfully fears the Lord, she shall be praised!" -Proverbs 31:30 Amplified Bible
 

Thursday, January 6, 2011

Wise Words For You In Selecting Your Marriage Partner



‎"Don't let anyone select your marriage partner for you, and dont allow yourself to select a lifetime mate in order to satisfy someone else.This is your marriage, your once-in-a lifetime opportunity"

-from the Book Finding The Love Of Your Life

(note: the word "anyone" here talks about humans, ok? The author of that book is a Christian and of course, in finding the love of our lives, he encouraged  that we don't exclude God in that issue (and i agree to that and God should be the center of every issue in our lives including marriage.)


Thursday, December 9, 2010

God's Concept Of Marriage



Mark 10:9 

 

Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”

(New International Version 1984, ©1984)

 

 

Let no one split apart what God has joined together.

(New Living Translation)

  


What therefore God has united (joined together), let not man separate or divide.

(Amplified Bible)

   


God has joined the two together, so no one should separate them.

(New Century Version)

 

 

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